17 Hour CE–Recorded video format (non-interactive)
Learning Objectives
Part 1: Infidelity as a Construct & Limitations of Other Treatment Models
- Participants will be able to identify three limitations of the current treatment models available.
- Participants will be able to list three terms researchers have used to discuss the construct of infidelity.
- Participants will be able to identify three contributing factors to the fact that the operational definitions of infidelity in the current literature are based on heterosexual normatives.
- Participants will be able to list two reasons why it is important to have an agreed upon definition of infidelity when working with infidelity clients.
Part 2: Infidelity Types, Causes, and Group Factors
- Participants will be able to identify three types of infidelity.
- Participants will be able to list two reasons emotional infidelity can be more difficult to operationally define than sexual infidelity.
- Participants will be able to identify four unique treatment challenges to virtual affairs.
- Participants will be able to list three explanations for infidelity behavior from the Evolutionary Biology perspective
- Participants will be able to identify three ways in which Evolutionary Biologists support their argument for infidelity behavior.
- Participants will be able to identify three dyadic factors contributing to infidelity from the psychological perspective.
- Participants will be able to list three individual factors contributing to infidelity from the psychological perspective.
- Participants will be able to identify three sociological protective factors against infidelity behavior.
Part 3: Assessment & Informed Consent
- Participants will be able to identify five risky behaviors that are caused by the intense emotions that the discovery of infidelity evoke.
- Participants will be able to list three areas of risk assessment.
- Participants will be able to identify three components essential to informed consent.
- Participants will be able to list three areas of emphasis that must be discussed in regard to the treatment structure during the informed consent.
- Participants will be able to list three important potential risks that must be highlighted to clients during the informed consent.
- Participants will be able to identify eight areas of needed data for clinical formulation.
Part 4: The First Milestone: Setting the Stage for Healing
- Participants will be able to identify three common mistakes that take place when clients fail to process infidelity after discovery.
- Participants will be able to list three steps for achieving the clinical objective of creating the optimal environment for recovery.
- Participants will be able to identify three main logistics on which therapists need to help clients agree on to create an optimal environment for recovery.
- Participants will be able to list three important reasons it is recommended clients should live together while engaged in the therapy process post the discovery of the affair.
- Participants will be able to list four common reasons that compel clients to tell others about the discovery of the affair.
- Participants will be able to identify three motivators for the betrayed to reach out to the third party.
- Participants will be able to list three motivators for the unfaithful to reach out to the third party.
- Participants will be able to identify three challenges a therapist must help their clients to anticipate and prepare for during the setting the stage for healing milestone.
Part 5: The Second Milestone: Getting the Story (Proactive Transparency & Suspension of Disbelief)
- Participants will be able to identify the three main elements of the Trifecta of Truth needed to get the true narrative of the affair.
- Participants will be able to list two barriers to proactive transparency.
- Participants will be able to identify three agreements clients must adhere to in order to get the true narrative of the affair and to recover.
- Participants will be able to list three ways the therapist can help their clients to suspend their disbelief while getting the true narrative of the affair.
Part 6: The Second Milestone: Getting the Story (Content Control)
- Participants will be able to identify two interventions the therapist can use to control the content of the narrative being told.
- Participants will be able to list five factors used to understand the parameter of what is considered appropriate questions for the betrayed to ask the unfaithful about the affair narrative.
- Participants will be able to identify the two goals clients must achieve in order to end the cycle of interrogation and questioning the story.
- Participants will be able to list four important messages to convey to the clients during the “getting the story” milestone.
Part 7: The Third Milestone: Acknowledging the Impact
- Participants will be able to identify three benefits of acknowledging the impact of infidelity.
- Participants will be able to list three physical, tangible impacts of infidelity.
- Participants will be able to identify three impacts of anger from the betrayed’s perspective.
- Participants will be able to list three impacts of anger from the unfaithful’s perspective.
- Participants will be able to list three main elements needed to acknowledge the impact of infidelity successfully.
- Participants will be able to identify three clinical challenges encountered during acknowledging the impact milestone.
Part 8: The Fourth Milestone: Choosing a Path
- Participants will be able to identify five reasons couples get stuck when choosing a path for recovery from infidelity.
- Participants will be able to list four areas of assessment that can help clients choose a path for recovery.
- Participants will be able to identify two ingredients needed for success if clients choose to heal together rather than separately.
Part 9: The Fifth Milestone: Creating a Plan of Action
- Participants will be able to identify three prerequisites for the plan of action.
- Participants will be able to list three qualities of a successful plan of action.
- Participants will be able to identify four main elements needed for a successful plan of action for separation.
- Participants will be able to list three main elements needed for a successful plan of action for rebuilding the relationship.
- Participants will be able to list two short-term goals for a plan of rebuilding.
Part 10: The Sixth Milestone: Implementation and Healing Pains & The Seventh Milestone: Sustainability
- Participants will be able to identify four rules for the successful implementation of a plan of rebuilding and recovery.
- Participants will be able to list three benefits to the rule: reevaluate and make adjustments.
- Participants will be able to identify two important aspects that clients must consider prior to making any changes to the plan of rebuilding.
- Participants will be able to list four signs of the healing pain of Post Affair Stress Disorder (PASD).
- Participants will be able to list three emotional barriers for resuming sexual intimacy.
- Participants will be able to identify four healing pains to recovery.
- Participants will be able to list three aspects important to utilize in the prevention and intervention measurements in the sustainability plan.
- Participants will be able to identify three tools for preventative measures of sustainability.
Part 11: Clinical Challenges & Unique Cases
- Participants will be able to identify three examples of challenges related to having multiple treatment units.
- Participants will be able to list three examples of pre-infidelity issues.
- Participants will be able to identify three examples of post-infidelity issues.
- Participants will be able to list four adjunct services professionals that can aid in providing comprehensive care.
- Participants will be able to list four therapist factors one must deal with while working with infidelity.
- Participants will be able to identify three unique clinical challenges therapists may encounter while working with clients dealing with personality disorders.
- Participants will be able to identify three unique clinical challenges therapists may encounter while working with clients dealing with addiction.
- Participants will be able to identify three unique clinical challenges therapists may encounter while working with clients dealing with emotionally fragile clients.
- Participants will be able to list five unique clinical challenges therapists may encounter when working with with clients dealing with love triangles.
Course Outline
Part 1: Infidelity as a Construct & Limitations of Other Treatment Models
- Early Civilization Lens
- Religious Lens
- Modern Day Law Lens
- The Use of Appropriate Terminology
- Definition & Clinical Formulation
- Creating a Cross-Cultural Definition
- Limitations of Other Models
Part 2: Infidelity Types, Causes, and Group Factors
- Types of Affairs
- Biological Perspective
- Sociological Perspective
- Psychological Perspective
- Sex, Age, & Socioeconomic Status
- Relationship Status & Religiosity
- Race, Ethnicity, & Sexual Orientation
Part 3: Assessment & Informed Consent
- Assessing Risks & Emotional Stability
- Outlining Treatment Goals
- Explaining Treatment Structure
- Highlighting Potential Risks
- Therapist Role and Expectations
- Areas of Assessment
- Data Needed for Clinical Formulation
Part 4: The First Milestone: Setting the Stage for Healing
- Agreeing on the Logistics of the Treatment Environment
- Anticipating & Preparing for the Challenges of Recovery
- Identifying the Necessary Adjunct Services
Part 5: The Second Milestone: Getting the Story (Proactive Transparency & Suspension of Disbelief)
- Creating A Safe Environment for Proactive Transparency
- The Risks of Exposure & Impact
- Bridging the Gap Between Assumptions and Truth
Part 6: The Second Milestone: Getting the Story (Content Control)
- Controlling the Content of the Story
- Determining the Appropriate Level of Disclosure
- How to Move Forward After the Narrative is Complete
Part 7: The Third Milestone: Acknowledging the Impact
- Facilitating the Process of Validation and Empathy
- Helping Clients Identify and Accept Personal Accountability
- Providing the tools and Space for Damage Assessment
Part 8: The Fourth Milestone: Choosing a Path
- Identifying the Obstacles Preventing Clients from Choosing a Path
- Understanding and Overcoming the Fears Associated with Each Choice
- Navigating the Areas of Assessment Needed to Make a Decision
Part 9: The Fifth Milestone: Creating a Plan of Action
- Clarifying and Assessing the Motivations Behind the Chosen Path
- Understanding the Qualities of a Successful Plan of Action
- Developing Short-Term & Long-Term Goals
Part 10: The Sixth Milestone: Implementation and Healing Pains & The Seventh Milestone: Sustainability
- Preparing for the Healing Pains of Implementation
- The Need for Ongoing Evaluation and Adjustment
- Developing Early Warning Signs & Immediate Interventions
Part 11: Clinical Challenges & Unique Cases
- Challenges of Personality Disorders, Addiction, and Emotionally Fragile Clients
- Countertransference & Environment of Care
- Gender Bias, Value Bias, and Ethical Dilemmas
Instructor–Talal H. Alsaleem, PsyD, LMFT

Talal H. Alsaleem, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist (#49918) recognized as a leading expert in the field of infidelity counseling. He is the author of Infidelity: The Best Worst Thing that Could Happen to Your Marriage and Unfaithful & Unrepentant: Affairs Beyond the Hope of Repair, and the founder of the Infidelity Counseling Center. His research interests and clinical work are focused on identifying the causes of infidelity and providing the best treatment for recovery from its impact. He developed Systematic Affair Recovery Therapy (SART)™, a method of infidelity counseling that has helped hundreds of couples navigate the challenges of the healing journey from affairs. Dr. Alsaleem is an international lecturer and speaker. His engaging talks have helped many counselors broaden their understanding of infidelity and gain the necessary clinical tools to help their clients recover from affairs.
Additional Information
Format and Length
Recorded video format (non-interactive) with access to live Q&A sessions. Total running time 17:15:52 Hours.
Topic Area
Clinical Practice
Completion Requirements
To obtain your CE Certificate, you must complete all course segments, satisfaction survey, and pass with a score of 70% or higher on the course completion quiz.
Who Should Attend
Marriage and family therapists, clinical social workers, educational psychologists, and professional clinical counselors. Licensing status or degree completion is not required.
Enrollment Period
Open ended.
Publication and Review Dates
04/01/2021
Conflict of Interest Statement
There is no potential conflict of interest or outside commercial support for this course. This course was developed and funded solely by Dr. Talal H. Alsaleem, PsyD, LMFT.

